Anger is Uncontrollable?

In this whole world there are many people with anger issues. The common thing they say is "We cannot control our anger... It is not in our hands...!" Is that really true? Lets try to find it out...!

What is Anger?

Anger is a immediate response of a person when something he expected is not completed. That immediate response is not the response that pleases others, instead it is in a tone that may hurt others... So does that mean a person expresses his anger everywhere? 

The answer is 'No'. The proof of this is, When in company your boss shouts at you for no reason, do you express your anger in front of him? You cannot express your anger in front of him. Ever thought of reason? The simple reason everyone knows is he has the power to fire you from the job. 

So, the conclusion here is, you cannot express anger where there is a loss of your own self... 

Where do you express your Anger?

You have seen many times, elders expressing their anger on the younger ones... That is because, the young ones have no much authority to answer them back. Also, they cannot do anything which will cause great loss to the elders. This is the case of most of the people...

So, the conclusion here is, You express your anger where there is no one stronger than you or anyone else cannot cause any loss to you...!

So What to Do?

Firstly, to all the people who think that expressing anger anywhere does not cause any loss, you need to change the mindset. Expressing anger anywhere will definitely cause loss. In the case of expressing anger on the younger people than you, the younger people will for sure have a feeling of taking revenge. This feeling will grow stronger and stronger if you express your anger on a regular basis. Once they grow a bit, they will be connected to the outer world, they will find a way to take the revenge... 

So, basically it is no loss for short term and a huge loss for long term....!

 What is the solution?

Anger is many times just a quick reaction to a useless and meaningless point. We just react without thinking even for once. Just try to create a gap between the situation you are facing and the reaction. Just observe what is going on around me, what am I doing. If you create a gap you will not see an immediate reaction, but a reaction which is made consciously, by taking into consideration all the point of views and also is it really worth expressing anger...!

Creating a gap between moments breaks down the flow of anger and eventually you give a calm reaction. Creating this gap, is the difficult part for most of the people. They cannot create a gap and therefore they say that anger cannot control their anger. No one is ready to sit and find the solutions. Everyone is concerned about their problems. This should be changed. If you don't search for things, how will you find them...! 

Keep this locked in your brain, 'Expressing any negative feeling (anger) will definitely come back to you'.